What is Spiritual Intelligence?
💕 Ever feel like you’ve lost your colour?
So here’s something wild I learned from flamingos.
When a mother flamingo is raising her chicks, she literally loses her pink. All that gorgeous blush she’s known for? It fades. Her body gives everything to feeding and protecting.
And then when her chicks can finally stand on their own, something beautiful happens. She starts to eat again, rest again, stretch her wings again… and the pink comes back.
And I thought, oh my god, that’s us.
That’s every school run mum who’s been running on empty, giving everything, and suddenly realises her old life doesn’t fit anymore.
The jeans don’t fit.
The career doesn’t excite.
The conversations at the school gate feel… beige.
Not because you’ve failed, but because you’ve evolved.
You’re in the space between who you were and who you’re becoming.
That’s not a crisis, babe, it’s the moment when you tip out of matrescence and find yourself in EMERGENCE
The next phase of matrescence when you become a school-run mum and suddenly your brain, your body, and your life are demanding something different.
But unlike the first stage of motherhood, there's no name for this. No framework. No roadmap. So I have created one! Rooted in :
🌱 My own life experience and 100s of coaching hours with women in this phase,
✨ Spiritual Intelligence (SQ), because what I see, hear and feel is that when we become the school run mum, our pink starts to come back and it’s where your SQ starts to wake up.
🧠 Neuroscience, because having spent the majority of my career in STEM, I’d had to back up my methods which some would refer as ‘woo woo’ with the hard facts of science. Now, If I can engage rocket scientists and engineering to understand and apply the creative and visuals tools I use through coaching them, I reckon I’m on to something!
So, what actually is Spiritual Intelligence ?
You’ve probably heard of:
IQ: your logic, reasoning, the way your brain solves things.
EQ: your emotional intelligence — how you handle feelings, empathy, and relationships.
But here is the secret; SQ goes deeper.
It’s the bridge between your head, heart, and soul.
It’s the part that asks:
“What’s this really about?”
“What’s this trying to teach me?”
“What would feel more me right now?”
Where IQ helps you think better,
and EQ helps you feel better,
SQ helps you live better.
and who doesn’t want that?!
It’s the quiet, intuitive intelligence that helps you make meaning, even in motherhood chaos, and design a life that feels aligned, not just efficient.
🧠 The Science Bit . Because, yes, there’s actual science
According to physicist and thought leader Danah Zohar, Spiritual Intelligence is the highest form of intelligence because it integrates the other two.
It’s not about religion or rituals, it’s about awareness,
It’s your ability to hold paradoxes: ambition and rest, motherhood and purpose, logic and intuition.
From a neuroscience perspective, building your SQ helps:
🧩 Strengthen emotional regulation (you react less, respond more).
💭 Improve meaning-making (you can reframe challenges as growth).
💖 Increase compassion — for yourself and others.
Basically, it’s the antidote to burnout — the science of coming back to yourself.
🌸 Why It Matters for Mums?
Motherhood literally rewires your brain (neuroplasticity) ready to care for your baby by prioritising empathy and care.
Beautiful? Yes.
Draining? Also yes.
Because while we’re wired to care for others, we often forget how to care for ourselves.
And that’s when the pink fades. We literally see this in Flamingos.
Then, around the school-age years, something stirs — a whisper that says, “There’s more for me than this.”
That’s not selfish.
That’s your SQ nudging you forward.
It’s your soul saying:
“You’ve kept everyone else alive. Now it’s your turn.”
It’s time to reconnect with who you are now, not pre-kids, not in theory but the wiser, wilder version that’s been quietly waiting underneath the laundry pile.
✨ How I Teach SQ
I have created a Heart led model to help you through the journey. Yes i dropped the J word because it is a journey!! A journey from auto pilot to authenticity.
I meets you in the messy middle of not knowing, the heart led model gives you a way to find yourself again, and then empowers you to create what comes next.
It's not about fixing you (they're not broken and I am not a therapist, although coaching is therapeutic).
It's not about giving you answers (you have your own but I’ll be your guide on the side).
It's about awakening your SQ so you can navigate your own transformation.
It Builds your Internal GPS…for the journey.
The model teaches you to trust yourself again. Every principle strengthens a different part of her inner guidance system:
👀 Awareness/ See it = Clarity on what's actually happening and where you want to go
🩷 Alignment / Feel it = Trust in your feelings and intuition
🥷🏻 Action/Do it = Take the steps to move forward
Result: You stop looking outside yourself for answers and starts trusting her own knowing.
It gives you Permission to:
Be different than you were before
Want more than "this"
Not have it all figured out
Take up space
Choose yourself
Change your mind
Grow at her own pace
Result: you stop abandoning yourself to fit in. Starts designing your dream life on your terms.
It's not just "trust the universe" woo-woo (though there's heart and intuition). It's not just "here's a 10-step plan" strategy (though there's action and clarity).
It's BOTH. Spiritual intelligence applied to real life and embraces the spiral of growth.
From Burnout to Flocking Fabulous
You don’t need to burn it all down to begin again.
You just need to stop surviving and start listening.
That whisper that says “I want more”? That’s your inner compass, your SQ, guiding you home.
The goal isn’t to get your old self back.
It’s to meet the new one — the one who’s already been growing quietly beneath the noise.
“Flamingos don’t chase their pink. They nourish it.”
Ready to Find Your Pink?
If you’re done living life in beige and ready to rediscover your colour? This is your sign.
Because the truth is — when you fly, your whole family flies too.
These are the ways you can work with me:
Podcast = Mamas Flight Path 10 min episodes twice a week. Every Thursday: I share my real story of how I’m applying this stuff - I don’t hold back! Sunday: I share a Jools Tools, often inspired from NLP.
Group Coaching : Fancy applying my heart led framework with a community of like minded women, then this is for you! Coming Soon!
Retreat = Gets the deep immersion to really FEEL the shifts at The Thinking Space Luxury Retreat.…in Portugal!
Soul goal parties = Set intentions and goals from alignment in a way that works for women using visual and creative tools. Coming February 2026
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You’ve got this and I’ve got you.
With Love and Kindness
Jools xx