⭐ Why Laughing at Your Mum Fails Might Actually Save Your Sanity
Hey love,
Can I tell you something a bit shameful-but-also-hilarious?
Motherhood, this wild, sticky, noisy, emotional obstacle course we’re all on is basically one long blooper reel.
Not the curated, #mumlife reel where everyone’s wearing matching linen.
No.
The real reel.
The one where you’ve got toothpaste on your sleeve, zero underwear on the school run and the regrets as you run, because you are always late, and someone is crying, often you on the inside and kids on the outside!
And honestly?
The only reason any of us survive it is because at some point, we learn to laugh.
Which is exactly why I had to bring Alyssa Kyria (The Funny Mummy) onto Mama’s Flight Path podcast
This woman doesn’t make jokes, she makes motherhood feel... well, survivable.
Motherhood: The Chaos Edition
Alyssa told me about her early breastfeeding days, and honestly, babe, I nearly cried-laughed.
Imagine this:
You’re in hospital.
Half-dressed.
Half-asleep.
Trying to feed a jaundiced newborn while strangers handle your boobs like they’re testing melons in Tesco.
She said she felt like a cow in a milking machine and I thought…
Yep. Been there. Bought the mooing rights.
But here’s the thing:
As soon as she started telling these stories on stage, mums flocked to her like seagulls to chips.
“OH MY GOD, I thought it was just me!”
⭐ The Motherhood Shame Spiral (AKA: Fun Police Headquarters)
Alyssa said something that made my whole heart ache:
She felt like her boobs “weren’t working.”
Like she wasn’t working.
And my friend, if there’s a universal mum experience, it’s that.
Feeling like everyone else is nailing it while you’re one meltdown away from Googling “Can you return a child? Asking for a friend.”
No one warns you that after having a baby, every decision comes with commentary:
Breastfeed.
Don’t breastfeed.
Sleep train.
Don’t sleep train.
Be present but earn money but don’t work too much but don’t lose yourself but don’t outshine anyone.
It’s like being given a test with no instructions… and then someone keeps moving the marking scheme.
No wonder we spiral.
⭐ But Then Comes the Laugh
Alyssa instas and stand up shows (and coming soon…PODCAST! Can’t wait for this!) share real stories like the one about the time a kid loudly announced that a stranger had a "much bigger willy than daddy" in a changing room.
I mean…
Where do you even put your face at that point?
In your handbag?
Under a locker?
But here’s the magic:
When she shares these stories mamas flock and laugh!
And suddenly we feel seen and united through shared pain and joy., not the only mama who feel like they have been been publicly humiliated.
Honestly?
I think this is why mums bond so hard and so fast.
We’re trauma-linked by the chaos!
⭐ Your Cringe Moments Are Actually Your Connectors
You know that thing you think no one else does?
Forgetting bin day
Showing up to school on an inset day
Letting your child eat chocolate for breakfast
Yeah. We’ve all done it.
And here’s the delicious bit of actual insight (don’t panic, it’s tiny and won’t hurt):
Sharing your messy, mortifying, deeply human stories literally creates connection.
Neuroscience says storytelling makes our brains light up together.
Which means when you tell your cringe out loud?
You’re not embarrassing yourself.
You’re building your village!
⭐ Alyssa’s 4H’s: The Heart Behind the Humour
Before we wrapped, I asked Alyssa my signature “4H” questions.
History:
She was bullied and used humour as a shield. (Hello, resilience queen.)
Hero:
Her mum, a powerhouse of joy, grit, and “I will not dim myself for anyone.”
Heartache:
Feeling she was getting motherhood wrong. (Same. All of us. Every day.)
Hope:
Her daughter Lola, confident, funny, and fully herself.
It made me realise:
Behind every funny mum is a soft, strong one who learned to survive by finding the light.
⭐ So Here’s What I Want You to Know, My Friend
You’re not supposed to have it together.
If you did, the rest of us would feel uncomfortable.
Your chaos isn't a flaw.
Your fails aren’t disqualifying.
Your cringe isn’t a reason to hide.
It’s glue.
It’s connection.
It’s the thing that makes another mum exhale and think,
“THANK YOU. I needed that.”
And next time something you think might be humiliating…
Try laughing about it in the moment or later.
I most definitely was crying in pain during my breast feeding jourbney but this soon turned into a titster relationship with another mama who I could laugh with afterwards.
It’s basically the motherhood survival code.
And you're already doing better than you think.
⭐ Want More of This Energy?
It’s 45 minutes of laughter friend therapy and its free unlike regular therapy!
Let me know if you have a funny mummy story!
Till next time hun,
You’ve got this and I’ve got you.
With Love and Kindness
Jools
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